I hear there's a lot of cheating going on in Abuja (and everywhere else
of course) but some residents of the city decided to explain why they do
what they do. Quite an interesting report by News Agency of Nigeria,
NAN. Read below and tell us what you think...
Some married people in Abuja on Wednesday identified the need for
material possession as the major reason for infidelity among married
couples.
Respondents in separate interviews also mentioned the desire to satisfy
emotional needs as another contributory factor.
Mr Johnson Eze, a civil servant, said he was cheating on his wife not
because he loved her less but for the sole purpose of “catching some
fun’’.
He said:
“My marriage is one of the best because my wife, who is God-given, is an
understanding woman and she tolerates me a lot. Yet, I still find
myself cheating on her just for the fun of it. This does not in any way
diminish the love I have for her and my lovely kids. I recall an
incident that happened some time ago. I told my wife that I was
travelling to Calabar for an official assignment, but ended up with my
girlfriend in a hotel, and she found out. The incident almost destroyed
my home but thanks to God my wife was able to forgive and forget put the
ugly incident behind, ‘’ he said.
Eze, who described infidelity as 'a careless act,’ advised men to desist
from it.
A female boutique operator, who pleaded anonymity, said the desire to
keep up with the latest fashion trend made her to cheat on her husband.
According to her, the husband, a low income earner, was financially
incapable of meeting her insatiable material needs.
“Besides, my hubby and I fight over things that are not relevant and I
lie to him most times to raise extra cash to buy something, which he
considers unnecessary. I have not been faithful in my marriage because
of the temptation to stay on top of the fashion trend which is way
beyond the financial capacity of my husband. Besides the extra cash my
boyfriend gives me, whenever I want to collect money from my husband for
food stuff and other basic necessities I always double the cost. This
has become a habit for me and whenever I don’t get my share in any
shopping I do on behalf of the family, I get angry and pick on my
husband at any little provocation, ‘’ she added.
A legal practitioner who offered a coined name – Mr Kosi Chiemela –
blamed his adulterous actions on lack of intimacy, emotional
disconnection and lack of friendship with his wife.
Chiemela who described marriage as “one difficult school you cannot
graduate from till you die,’’ stated that the only way to escape was to
stay single.
“I am a temperamental person and when I newly got married, it was not
easy for my wife whose temper is also short.
“Both of us hardly agree on anything and the only escape route for me is
to seek love and affection elsewhere.
“My girlfriend understands me and she tolerates a lot, unlike my wife
who blows up like a bomb at the slightest provocation,’’ he said.
Report by NAN
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